BDSM Glossary – Your Quick Guide to Common Kink Terms

If you’ve ever skimmed a forum or a video and felt lost at "bondage bed" or "pleasure dom," you’re not alone. This glossary breaks down the most used BDSM words into plain English, so you can understand the scene without the jargon.

Power Roles: Dom, Sub, and Pleasure Dom

A Dom (short for Dominant) is the person who takes charge during a scene. They set the pace, decide the activities, and guide the experience. A Sub (Submissive) does the opposite – they hand over control and follow the Dom’s direction. Both roles require clear communication and consent.

Sometimes you’ll see pleasure dom. This isn’t a separate role; it just highlights a Dominant who focuses on sensual, pleasure‑based play rather than strict discipline. Whether it’s a light tease or an intense session, the key is mutual enjoyment.

Equipment and Play Types: From Bondage Beds to Animal Role‑Play

A bondage bed is a specially designed bed with built‑in restraints – think straps, cuffs, and anchor points. It lets a Dom safely secure a Sub for prolonged scenes. Always test the limits, check for comfort, and never leave a restrained partner alone.

Spanking art refers to visual or photographic works that celebrate the erotic nature of spanking. It’s more about the aesthetic than the act, but it often inspires people to explore spanking in their own play.

Animal role‑play terms like pup play and pony play let participants act as a pet or horse, using gear like collars, leashes, or bite‑bars. The appeal is the mix of surrender (as a animal) and fun (as a game). If you’re curious, start with simple gear and set boundaries before diving deeper.

Other playful terms you might encounter include primal play – raw, instinctive scenes that tap into animalistic instincts – and the cheeky blumpkin, a slang term for a specific act that mixes oral and anal play. These terms are often used for shock value, so approach them with an open mind and clear discussion.

For those interested in sensual massage, a lingam massage focuses on male genital pleasure, blending tantra techniques with therapeutic touch. It’s praised for stress relief and heightened intimacy, but it should always be consensual and performed by a trained practitioner.

Remember, any BDSM activity hinges on three core principles: Safe, Sane, Consensual. Discuss limits, use safe words, and check in regularly. Whether you’re a first‑timer or a seasoned player, a solid glossary helps you communicate clearly and explore safely.